to speed this up

I have dated interracially for almost 12 years. At first it was for the sole purpose of the scarce creation of guys who were untarnished by my peers and friends. And now, it is an attraction. What attraction you may ask? I can't explain that. I truly can't. You may like your steak rare, and I may prefer mine well done. I am who I am. I have dated 3 black men in the past 12 years. None of them lasted too long. I have many black male friends, but the attraction is lacking for a reason I can't explain. My family accepts this, my nephew is biracial, I have cousins who are biracial. Everyone loves everyone. And if they do have a problem with it, most of us dont' care or will lose no sleep over it.
When I went back to my parent's hometown--MS/TN..Do people stare? If they do, I don't notice. And the one's that do, most of the time they smile. What they're thinking? I have no idea. Black women dating white men is starting to become a growing popularity, something that makes people do a double take. But why? We see a black man with a white woman, do we have to look once and look again to make sure we saw what we think we saw? lol, I think it's quite funny myself. Society is changing, people are evolving, minds, culture, it doesn't stop just because we choose to not think about it.