talking to a woman..seriously

Being an online geek, I have ran across all kinds of men, and in turn ran across all kinds of conversations. A most recent conversation that a gentleman was having with himself and I was only watching.."so you like white meat?" Um, babes, that is the wrong way to talk to someone, a woman, even a person that's eating some sort of fowl. Do Not, I repeat, DO not, start any sort of conversation in that manner. If you want to start a conversation with a black woman or any ethnic woman about why she interracially dates, then ask her. But ask with some sort of common sense. We all have our days that we lack the switch that tells the Common sense gene to activate. If you want her to come hither, do like I said in a previous post, talk about something in her profile, something you want to know, something you like and see if she's interested, if she isn't then don't let your feelings get hurt and it just wasn't meant to be, or help your own ego out and say "her loss",whatever.
The all around question I mostly see is, "so, what do you like to do for fun?" Well lets see, I like to dance, write, sleep, most things that other people like to do. Ask what type of music she likes, things that matter to you in a person, mate, a friend, if she knows her good traits and bad traits. I know what I need to work on in life, if she doesn't or acts like nothing is wrong. RUN! We fail to realize that someone who takes accountability for their actions and mistakes is someone who knows that there is room for progress. Which as the human race and Americans we often forget, there is always room for progress.
Dating these days aren't the same way they were 10 years ago. Technology has changed and in turn has also changed people or we were just doomed from the beginning. Have an open mind when you approach a person, you aren't going to find all the qualities you want in a person, and if you do, More power and tell me your secret. When you want someone to accept you as you are, sometimes we forget, we have to accept the other person as well. Honesty and a sense of humor could seriously make me overlook the fact that he has an extra finger, which I would overlook anyway. One thing that I always do with a friend if mine, is we see who can find the best jokes and text them to each other, we both love to laugh, is their potential for romance, no, we already tried it. But, a great friend. If nothing else, at least you know you have a friend in the making and it's possible the other pieces will fall into place.

online dating interaction

Online dating sites are coming on up in the world. There is so much social interaction that you can do, I mean on hot or not you can now chat with people, that is really advanced considering before it was if you like me click yes or no. Wish dating was that easy!
On many sites, you can call the person, you can instant message their cell phone, there are some great sites, with quality people on them. It's just the not so great fact of getting "chiggers" while you are digging through the hay to find your needle. Don't feel bad, I have to reread my own writing sometimes.
Ladies and Gentleman, it's all about capturing the person's attention. That's what it comes down to. If you are going to click on that "IM USER" button, or "Chat now" talk about something that's in their profile. Talk about something that will make you both laugh, her blush, you blush,let those shy inhibitions go, and just be yourself. Talk about what you like, if you would love to learn how to play poker, then talk to her about it. I want to learn myself. Maybe later, if you live 300 miles apart you can go into a game room online together and have a nice little online date in a yahoo poker room. The small things matter, to us women, the small things matter more than you could ever realize. Yes, reread that again too. It's early, cut me some slack.
Think of it like this, when you are talking to someone, taking the time out of your life even if it is for just 5 seconds to make contact with a person, you want their attention. Not, "hey, so you like white guys" No crap sherlock! Talk about my interests, talk about cooking, your sibling who is about to have a baby, or even your uncle who talks to himself and the TV while he watches Chuck Norris in Walker, Texas Ranger.My motto, is "there is no point in wasting my time or yours when we aren't looking for the same thing." While we may create a great friendship, but when you ask for my measurements, you just ruined the slight chance that I would give you a glass of water in a hot desert, I'm really not that cold hearted, but I hope you get my point.
The point is, socially interact with someone, read their profile, listen to what they have to say, build rapport. Unfortunately, dating is just like being a salesman, you have to listen to the clients needs, your own needs and services, and find a solution. Whether you admit or not, the two are very similar. Later we will discuss how to build rapport, how to listen, and when to just leave it alone. Till another post. Satori

to speed this up

I have dated interracially for almost 12 years. At first it was for the sole purpose of the scarce creation of guys who were untarnished by my peers and friends. And now, it is an attraction. What attraction you may ask? I can't explain that. I truly can't. You may like your steak rare, and I may prefer mine well done. I am who I am. I have dated 3 black men in the past 12 years. None of them lasted too long. I have many black male friends, but the attraction is lacking for a reason I can't explain. My family accepts this, my nephew is biracial, I have cousins who are biracial. Everyone loves everyone. And if they do have a problem with it, most of us dont' care or will lose no sleep over it.
When I went back to my parent's hometown--MS/TN..Do people stare? If they do, I don't notice. And the one's that do, most of the time they smile. What they're thinking? I have no idea. Black women dating white men is starting to become a growing popularity, something that makes people do a double take. But why? We see a black man with a white woman, do we have to look once and look again to make sure we saw what we think we saw? lol, I think it's quite funny myself. Society is changing, people are evolving, minds, culture, it doesn't stop just because we choose to not think about it.