online dating interaction

Online dating sites are coming on up in the world. There is so much social interaction that you can do, I mean on hot or not you can now chat with people, that is really advanced considering before it was if you like me click yes or no. Wish dating was that easy!
On many sites, you can call the person, you can instant message their cell phone, there are some great sites, with quality people on them. It's just the not so great fact of getting "chiggers" while you are digging through the hay to find your needle. Don't feel bad, I have to reread my own writing sometimes.
Ladies and Gentleman, it's all about capturing the person's attention. That's what it comes down to. If you are going to click on that "IM USER" button, or "Chat now" talk about something that's in their profile. Talk about something that will make you both laugh, her blush, you blush,let those shy inhibitions go, and just be yourself. Talk about what you like, if you would love to learn how to play poker, then talk to her about it. I want to learn myself. Maybe later, if you live 300 miles apart you can go into a game room online together and have a nice little online date in a yahoo poker room. The small things matter, to us women, the small things matter more than you could ever realize. Yes, reread that again too. It's early, cut me some slack.
Think of it like this, when you are talking to someone, taking the time out of your life even if it is for just 5 seconds to make contact with a person, you want their attention. Not, "hey, so you like white guys" No crap sherlock! Talk about my interests, talk about cooking, your sibling who is about to have a baby, or even your uncle who talks to himself and the TV while he watches Chuck Norris in Walker, Texas Ranger.My motto, is "there is no point in wasting my time or yours when we aren't looking for the same thing." While we may create a great friendship, but when you ask for my measurements, you just ruined the slight chance that I would give you a glass of water in a hot desert, I'm really not that cold hearted, but I hope you get my point.
The point is, socially interact with someone, read their profile, listen to what they have to say, build rapport. Unfortunately, dating is just like being a salesman, you have to listen to the clients needs, your own needs and services, and find a solution. Whether you admit or not, the two are very similar. Later we will discuss how to build rapport, how to listen, and when to just leave it alone. Till another post. Satori

online dating headlines

There is the constant headline that I see when I am browsing through online personals, for my own benefit and for the benefit of helping writer's block. I always see the title "nice guys always finish last", while in the real world, unfortunately this is not true. Gentleman, rewrite that headline. Nothing against the nice guys, I love the nice guys, you make a brown girl blush, seriously. But that headline doesn't make the women, you are looking to attract, want to click on your profile to know more. I wish it did. I'm a nice girl, with a few streaks none violent or anything. But you should want to write something that is off the wall, off beat, that makes her say "WHAT?" Nothing dirty of course, but, how about, "let me tickle your fancy", that would make me want to click on your profile to know more, but my humor is occasionally warped and brutal. There is a friend of mine that has a profile that reads "wealthy baron seeks young princess to become his wife", I know he isn't wealthy, he is in the army over in Iraq for Christ's sake and in cammies in his picture, but that would make me laugh and especially at least take a look at his profile and want to know more. It's all about humor,
Of course, Everyone's sense of humor is different. But, the profile headline that advertises, "SWM seeking ebony princess/queen", while there are some women that are looking for that guy who is going to cater to their needs and wants. We, as women are usually looking for more substance, that substance that makes us want to sell our car or family to put money in our bank account just so we can subscribe and write you and meet the guy who is going to be the lungs that help us breathe, well that's an overstatement but you get the point. Make us want to do that, or think about it at least, and we should make you want to do that for us of course. This is just a little note, advice and information, about those headlines. Till another post